Moushumi Ghose's practice focuses on improving sexuality with communication about both sexual and non-sexual matters (moushumighose.com; LMFT). Her book, Classic Sex Positions Reinvented, is available on Amazon.

What is sex therapy?

Sex therapy has a few different meanings. In general it is psychotherapy, or talk therapy that focuses on sexuality, sex, gender, intimacy and communication. There are a few different camps within the field of sex therapy. Some people view themselves as sex-positive therapists, seeing sex as a celebration and encouraging clients to embrace their sexuality and learn socially acceptable ways of expressing themselves.  Sex-positive sex therapy focuses on education, having an open mind, communication and consent. The other camp centers around sex addiction. While there is definitely overlap, sex addiction therapists often follow a more medical, pathology model, meaning there is more emphasis on disorder and dysfunction. I consider myself to be a sex-positive sex therapist.  

Does sex therapy for individuals differ from sex therapy for couples?  

Individuals, couples, even throuples often come in with similar issues but the treatment course can be vastly different. Couples therapy tends to be faster. There is less hiding and more progress because people "tell on each other" so-to-speak, in session. It is definitely harder to hide . Individual counseling is trickier, as it may be more difficult to pinpoint the problem areas. Individuals often don't "see" their problem the same way their partners or others do. There is less accountability and more likelihood the the treatment time will go a lot longer, as change tends to be slower. Insight takes time.

Has your experience shown that non-sexual problems can cause issues in a couple's sex life? If so, have you been able to help couples resolve those problems and get their sex life back on track? 

Non-sexual problems are often always at the core of a couples sexual issues. Sexual problems are often symptoms and indicators of something bigger going on. It can range from depression, stress, unresolved anger or resentment, power imbalances, financial problems, disagreements, and the list goes on. The majority of my work revolves around helping couples understand one another, communicate better so that they can start moving towards each other, break down some of the walls they built up, be improve their sex life. 

Have you had clients who are not comfortable being open about their sexual feelings, desires, and experiences?

I would say a majority of people are not comfortable talking about their sexual feelings, desires and experiences. The unfortunate truth is that we as a society are not given the tools to talk about sex in a real way. Most people learn about sex from very disjointed sources. A friends uncle had porno magazines, and their girlfirends taught them about their period. These are just two example. Rarely do parents sit down with their kids and talk about sex in an honest way, that doesn't come off as hypocritical or awkward. So, people's knowledge about sex is often filled with holes. And, Hollywood teaches us that sex should flow, that sex should be effortless, and often times without talking or words!  But reality is quite different. Porn shows us the opposite extreme of sex being kinky, dirty and always hot and pleasurable, with the actors only talking dirty! Both of these are extremes, and real, honest-to-goodness communication about sex falls somewhere in-between. Sex is awkward, and communicating about sex gets better the more you do it. I often do exercises with clients, just to get the sexual talk flow going. This alone can make a huge difference in their communication, not to mention it is an awesome bonding ritual for couples.

Is there one thing that you wish people understood about sexuality?

One thing? There are a few off the top of my head. For starters 1) sexuality ebbs and flows and we as people are constantly changing and evolving both sexually and as people 2) good sex doesn't just happen, sometimes it takes commitment to be present from all parties 3) Sex should be fun, and not goal oriented. There is a lot more to sex than intercourse and orgasm 4) Lube is your friend. 5) Monogamy is a social structure you get into by choice. Not all relationships are nor need to be monogamous- Couples get to make their own rules.

How can people contact you?

www.MoushumiGhose.com
info@moushumighose.com